A few weeks ago before Valentine’s Day, Swtorista posted a question on Reddit asking, “Has anyone had an online relationship via SWTOR?”
I thought it was an interesting thread, especially because of the status of my own current relationship, which is long-distance. You’ll be happy to know that he is also a SWTOR player and that I have already met and hung out with him in person several times. In my opinion, he’s a much better player than me (though he adamantly disagrees), but I can confidently say that I play a Deception Assassin a lot better than him.
It’s nice dating someone that enjoys the same game as me (or even just gaming in general). I used to date someone that was uninterested in video games and even more so probably disliked SWTOR. I don’t really want to explain the complexities of how I felt back then, but amongst other things I felt like I wasn’t able to do anything I wanted to do.
I actually play much less than I used to back when I dated someone that didn’t like that I was playing video games, but back then I think I needed the gaming to burn off whatever crazy emotions I was feeling. I’m pretty happy now, and I don’t constantly need to be killing things (in-game) to dispel anger.
However, there are also not so happy things about maintaining a long-distance relationship. I don’t get to go to the movie theater, out to dinner, or do fun things in person with him. A lot of times it’s really lonely, which is probably why I keep myself constantly busy. Interestingly, we don’t play together as much as you may think. This is mostly because I have a set group of guildies I raid with, and he is on a separate server completely with his own group. I think this is best in the case that either one of us ever becomes tired of the game–that our relationship is not solely based on a video game. I’m excited though that I will get to see him at least two times (hopefully) in the next three months!
I have some advice for those of you that do have long-distance relationships with another SWTOR (or your game of choice) player. If you haven’t already met in person, I would recommend meeting up at some type of gaming convention or Community Cantina, because it is important to know if you actually like someone in-person, especially if you think the relationship is something serious that you want to pursue. Additionally, I would highly recommend meeting in a well-populated, public place and letting others know where you are going, what you are doing, and who you will be with, because safety is absolutely important when dealing with people you meet on the internet (though, this is not how my boyfriend and I met!).
Do you have any SWTOR or gaming love stories you want to tell me about? Let me know in the comments or tweet me @Heather_PLS!